I have had days lately where I feel a little…well…crazy. lol Change is in the air for me and very much at the forefront of my life. I’m changing my body, my views, my behavior…all for the better. I am getting fit, I am inviting the positive into my life, and reaching out to friends and actually starting to DO some things again. As a Libra, all of this change can make me feel down right unbalanced at times. My relationships have sometimes suffered due to the unbalance I feel quaking inside of me. I sometimes lash out angrily with my words. Part of it is due to feeling a little like a toddler having a tantrum. It is my way of stamping my foot and saying I’m mad that I am not getting exactly what I want when I want it from that person. The other part of the issue is due to perspective. I have, at times, made mountains out of mole hills and assumed things (in error) because of my impatience and skewed perspective. At times I feel like it is the “end of the world” and “it’s all over” and “I’m done” and then I say something to provoke, hurt or just get some kind of reaction. Yeah, I know it isn’t right…especially with trying to become a better me. It certainly isn’t a flattering trait that has reared its ugly head in me recently.
I’ve had to step back and try to figure out what I can do differently to make this new issue go away. It occurred to me that what I need to do is simply change my perspective. I have to try to look at things differently when I start to get anxious and annoyed that I am not getting enough attention in my relationships. If I can look at things differently then I am less likely to completely overreact and think that it is the end of the world every time I don’t get exactly what I want. What a blessing that would be :))
So after much thought about perspective and my own situation, these are the conclusions I have come to. Loving unconditionally means we can’t put expectations on behavior or expect a return of the same kind of affection we give. If you love someone, you just have to love them without worrying about getting something back. You love them because your heart tells you you must. We must be what we want. We must love with our whole heart for the good of humanity. Yes, change your perspective and it will help you stay sane. We will each get through our unbalancing situations and wind up being better people for it at the other end. If we are here to learn and grow, then we must learn from every experience and carry on.
We create our own realities and one of the first steps of manifesting what you want is being able to see it, imagine it in your mind. I have lost sight of doing that very important step and am trying hard to start seeing what I want to manifest in order to create the reality I want. If you aren’t doing that in your own life, try it. It really works.