I think I have to admit (mostly to myself) that Deryck Whibley has become my unlikely muse. lol Lately many of my blog posts are inspired by something relating to him. This one will be no exception. This too is directly related to my interactions with him on Instagram.
It was my guides who first brought Deryck into my awareness. Before that, I thought all those Sum 41 songs I heard on the radio were Blink 182. hahaha Sorry, Deryck, it is true. I was oblivious to the name “Sum 41” until May 2014. Since then it has been an interesting experience, to say the least.
It is funny how a complete stranger can unknowingly make an impact on us and help us grow without doing anything but being themselves. I dutifully started posting comments because I knew my guides wanted me to interact with him for a reason, so I complied. What I didn’t count on is the inner growth I would make as a result.
I have been watching Deryck since his brush with death. I have been paying attention to what he says. I have watched older videos on their YouTube channel to get acquainted a little about who he is. I have watched interviews with him as well.
One day he is all like “Yo, I am on Instagram now. Follow me!” I groaned and reluctantly signed up to Instagram so that I could “Follow” him there. I watched and sometimes commented. I watched his adoring fans and their comments. Eventually Deryck actually started interacting with them. I thought, “Wow! This is a twist and a change.” He has even replied to me a number of times. I saw his fans light up and get excited and start posting more. I saw the desperation of some wanting him to notice them. “Please notice me!” some would say. And how many of us feel that way in our every day life…”just notice me”. It struck me and I could see how much it meant to those people to have a response. The average age of Dercyk’s audience is still mostly young…teens to 20s, I would say. His music speaks to that age group and that age group can be influenced a lot.
Eventually the interaction with his fans evolved. He started sharing their artwork and tattoos. He started liking their videos, and I tell you, my heart grew just observing all of this. Sometimes I have posted comments to Deryck and later deleted them. I do that a lot actually. lol Sometimes if they just leave me feeling like I have revealed too much, I delete.
Recently I posted a comment to Deryck and sang his praises. I have done it before, but I chose an old photo and tagged him and hoped none of his fans would bother to look. lol This time I posted out in the open for all of them to see my soft gooey inside that I don’t often like to show. And then yesterday I posted a poem on my Instagram and tagged him in a message that followed. While I was composing that message, something unexpected happened. At the end of the message I BURST into tears and I was like wtf, where did that come from?
That moment was a spotlight. It shined a light on a core issue…something I needed to work on and address….but it also left me feeling vulnerable and exposed even though what I said was kind and loving. This morning I promptly deleted it. My BFF, Ziba, asked me why and a series of questions that made me take a look at it.
This was the dialogue exchange…
ME: I mean last night with writing what I did to Deryck and responding with huge emotion was a surprise and shined a light on something I need to look at.
Of course I have a strong urge to delete that message and I likely will today. I think he has probably seen it and there is no reason for it to be there anymore.
ZIBA: leave it
you created it and it’s beautiful, let it remain
ME: The poem will stay
ZIBA: even the comment
ME: But my personal message to him I just removed
ME: I don’t know
It just made me squirm
And I guess it wouldn’t seem so…i don’t know….pointless if he had actually acknowledged seeing it.
It makes me feel vulnerable and naked and so I deleted it.
Ding, ding, ding! And there it is…feeling exposed and naked leaves me feeling vulnerable and I run from vulnerability like the plague.
“What was that issue that came up?” you might wonder. Let me share a couple of the comments I posted before:
This was the one I hid on an old post….
oktobre17: I’m going to randomly post on one of your old posts over here because I can. I miss this account and miss seeing your face as the avatar I see when you post pictures. I understand why you would choose the sum 41 account as it just makes sense. More people can find you easily. Let’s face it “sum 41” is easier to spell than “the official Deryck Whibley” hahahaha I am being nostalgic, I guess. I think it is very cool that you make some kid’s day by commenting and liking his video, or sharing an amazing drawing someone did who loves your band. It makes them feel special and it makes you seem like you have a heart and can remember what is was like to be a geeky kid singing to your favorite band in your bedroom. I feel more like an observer than a fan and I have been watching and I think your interaction with your fans is lovely and thoughtful. Maybe I have had too much time to think while I lay in bed for days with food poisoning. Hahaha Sending love and light your way because my heart feels full with what I have seen.
Here is a recent one…
oktobre17: @sum41 I know I have said this before and I will say it again. I really love seeing how you are interacting more with your fans in different ways…liking their posts and sharing their art and tattoos. Those tiny little gestures mean the world to those people. It isn’t just about their idol acknowledging them, but I am guessing at least some of them don’t have people in their lives supporting them and encouraging them to pursue their dreams. You give them hope and encouragement and that means a lot when so many people tell you to be realistic and tell you that you could never succeed in music.
In your position you have a platform to be an influence and role model and what you do with that position matters. Bravo to you for stepping up and giving a shit about these kids. It is beautiful to watch as it unfolds. Much love and light to you, my frien
PS: I miss you updating your blog. 🙂
And this is the one I deleted…
oktobre17: @sum41 I used to write a lot when I was young. Hence the reason most of my lyrics and poems are written in the 80s and 90s. My big dream in life was that i wanted to sing in a band. I wrote lyrics but didn’t play an instrument so didn’t know the first thing about writing music to go with those words. This one is a poem but many of my writings were set up with verses and a chorus. My father was/is a religious fanatic. My parents weren’t supportive of my dream. It kind of crushes the spirit of the young dreamer when you aren’t encouraged to do what you love most. I think at one point I just gave up the dream and buried it deep inside. It was only this past year that I dug out my old poetry and lyrics and published some of it on my blog. I’m 46 now and those kinds of dreams I simply remember wistfully with a little pain in my heart. My daughter is 6 and i want to encourage her to pursue anything her heart desires. When I say the things i do to you, I say them very sincerely because what you are doing for those kids, I wish someone had done for me.
Do you see how in the second comment I kind of in a roundabout way talk about what my issue is but I worded it as “them” and “they” and didn’t own it? In the last comment I admitted that *I* didn’t feel supported or encouraged…and FUCK…god damnit the tears just broke free again and just typing this is like standing naked and exposed, showing you my greatest failure and disappointment…THE DEATH OF A DREAM…a dream never realized. And now I know there is something there that is begging to be healed and what that something is.
I want to talk about how being vulnerable isn’t a bad thing, blah blah blah….but I think I have to step away and post an edit to this once the tears have stopped and I can compose my thoughts.